Hey parents. Let’s be good to our kids.

 

A few months ago I saw a post online about a mother who had shaved her daughters hair off because she was always playing with the scissors. She was always trying to cut her own her or cut everything in sight. She shaved her daughter’s hair off because she felt that there was nothing else she could do to stop her little girl for reaching for the scissors. She felt she needed to “teach her a lesson”. There were so many comments in agreement saying “good on you, show her who’s boss”, “she needs to learn” etc The only thing that girl learnt was humiliation that will no doubt haunt her for the rest of her life. She learnt that communication came in the form of punishment, and that her feelings didn’t matter because she was doing something that someone else didn’t agree with. Last week I saw a boy no older than 4 walking out of his driveway, coughing and crying. So visibly upset that he was choosing to walk down the road in the rain. What had made him so upset that he felt the need to escape the one place that was meant to make him feel safe? I watched him for a while before I drove over and stopped the car. I asked if he was okay and he just looked at me with tears in his eyes, shaking his head. In that moment I just wanted to put him in my car and take care of him. I told him to go inside so that he was out of the rain, and said that I hoped he felt better soon. I watched him stand there as I drove off, and I saw the person that was meant to be looking after him just point and laugh. My heart ached for that little boy. Just the other day I was in the mall watching the kids play in the play area. A little boy, younger than my own son ran out crying. He walked around the mall searching for his parents, he was so visibly upset and lost. My partner walked right down to the other side of the mall with him before picking him up and bringing him back to the play area. It had been a good 10 minutes and we couldn’t see anyone who looked like this little boys mum or dad. There was no one distressed searching for their child, in that moment I panicked and thought they’d actually left him there for good. 5 minutes later a dad came out of nowhere and asked what was going on. As we explained to him what had happened, he told us his 11 year old was in the play area.. and then he asked her why she hadn’t been watching her brother, why had her brother run off without her seeing? The mum also came over from the other side of the mall wondering what had happened. These parents had left two of their kids in charge of a toddler and ate where they couldn’t see their children. They didn’t notice their child walking around the mall crying. Not once did they panic or show any worry over what had just happened. I was angry for the daughter who was expected to be play mum, and upset for the little boy who couldn’t find his parents. These moments have played on my mind lately. Small snippets of a child’s life that have reminded me that there are so many kids out there who ARE suffering in ways we couldn’t even imagine. These moments have left me feeling helpless, wishing I could do more for all the kids that are falling through the cracks. The kids that are being taught that they aren’t important enough to come first, to be loved and nurtured in all the ways that they need to be.  As parents we need to love and respect our children. We need to treat them as we would anyone else, we don’t need to “show them who’s boss” or put adult expectations onto them. We may be struggling with our own shit, we may not know how to get out of a bad situation or a vicious cycle, but we need to be strong enough within ourselves to put our children’s needs first. Whatever your journey , wherever you’re life is heading.. please just do your best and be kind to your kids. Love them without bullying them, love and respect their innocence,  and love them so hard that no matter what’s going on in life.. they will get by just knowing that you’re there.

 

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Lucky last- Putting the baby clothes away for good.

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Tomorrow marks 2 years since we welcomed our youngest into the world. He was our little miracle so soon after a miscarriage and he’s the final addition to our family.  While he enters another year of toddler life, I’m reminded that he is no longer my little baby anymore. The baby clothes have been packed away in storage, waiting to be passed down to future nieces, nephews or grandchildren. Baby rattles have been replaced with blocks, walking has progressed to running and baby babble has quickly turned into words and sentences. Some families make the decision not to have anymore children, and some have that decision made for them. Our decision is one we had to make late last year due to my own health complications, one that has taken me a while to be okay with. I’ve been blessed with two beautiful children who are growing so fast that some days I just want to freeze time and keep them as they are right now.  2 years on from the newborn stage, and I’ve finally accepted that there will be no more babies in our future. There will be no more little kicks or movements in my belly, no more pregnancy cravings, no more breastfeeding and no more first cries, first smiles or first steps. Those first milestones that we so impatiently want our first born to meet , suddenly become moments we want to hold onto and soak in with our last. We find ourselves torn between the excitement of our children learning new things, and the sadness that comes with knowing that we won’t get to relive that moment again. As my boy turns two tomorrow, I will remember his first breath and the way he gripped my finger so tightly. I will hold onto the memories of his first smile and I will remember the excitement of wondering what he would look like, what he would be like and who he would become. I will celebrate my own journey of motherhood so far and look forward to the future of raising children who have left babyhood behind ✨

Friday Faves- Off the Shoulder Trend

The off the shoulder trend is everywhere right now. It’s a favorite of mine because its effortless, flattering and provides ultimate comfort. For my Friday faves,  I’m going to share a few pieces on my wish list for Summer, including some styles for the little ones..because matching with mum is always cute right?

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  1. Tensel Rah Rah Dress AU $139.95.
  2. Green off the shoulder dress NZ $15.. Bargain!
  3. Majorca off the shoulder top AU $79.95
  4. Odelia off the shoulder dress NZ $69.99.. Currently on Sale for $48.99
  5. Floral off the shoulder blouse NZ $29.99

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  1. Zara Lace Trim Dress , NZ $54.99.. Currently on sale for $32.94
  2. Sunshine Somewhere Top AU $49
  3. Frill Yoke Top NZ $39.90
  4. Frill Sleeve Blouse NZ $54.90
  5. Striped Playsuit NZ $89.90

Luka turns 1 -Our Woodland themed party and cake smash

Luka is officially ONE! It’s been a year of sleepless nights, never ending smiles and plenty of laughs from this little man. He has fit into our family perfectly and it feels like he’s been with us forever.

Luka’s birthday party was planned pretty last minute. As much as I tried to plan ahead, I really just didn’t have time to organize everything 😅 We decided on a Woodland theme because Luka loves nature and being outdoors in the garden (eating all the leaves).. and a woodland theme was also super easy to work with. I made a Robin Hood costume the week of the party (thanks Pinterest!) and a photoboard using wrapping paper from Pop Roc Parties.

We booked The Punnet Cafe  for Luka’s birthday over the weekend,  and I can not rave enough about how amazing they were ! The food was beautiful, the setup was perfect and the playground out the back was so much fun for the kids to play on. They provided everything we needed and we were able to adjust everything to suit our theme.  I would definitely recommend this venue to anyone in the area. Below I’ve shared some photos from our special day and the quick cake smash photo shoot I did , I hope this helps anyone wanting ideas for a woodland theme party for their little babes!

Enjoy,

Kristelle xo

THE PARTY

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Family photo with our little Robin Hood
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Luka’s woodland themed cake made by my talented sister in law

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Antipasto platter for the adults.
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Food selection for the kids.

 

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Robin Hood and the Lumber Jack (Such a cute outfit idea).

 

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Kids table set up, Straws and Napkins from poprocparties.co.nz

THE CAKE SMASH

The cake smash was done a few days after the party, and I made up a vanilla cake using a box mix from the super market . We’re in the middle of winter and the weather is always unpredictable so I had to get them done while the sun was out!  These photos were taken behind some logs at the park close to our house.  It was so much fun watching Luka carefully poke at the cake for a little while before realizing he could eat it.. And once he had a bite he kept going back for more!